Putting Children First : : A Guide for Parents Breaking Up / / Christina Bartha, Hanna McDonough.

• Superior document: Title is part of eBook package: De Gruyter University of Toronto Press eBook-Package Archive 1933-1999
• VerfasserIn: Bartha, Christina,; McDonough, Hanna,
• Place / Publishing House: Toronto : : University of Toronto Press, , [2016]; ©1999
• Year of Publication: 2016
• Language: English
• Physical Description: 1 online resource (192 p.)

This well researched book illustrates the importance of co-operation in divorce. The authors, experts in the field, present compelling evidence that when separating parents work through their differences, their children remain emotionally connected to both and therefore experience only temporary adjustment problems. However, they also show that prolonged conflict is apt to result in long-term emotional and behavioural problems for the children. This book describes how children often become trophies, pawns, messengers, and mediators when caught in bitter family disputes.This book's child-centred approach helps parents to avoid and/or minimize conflict by transforming themselves from antagonistic spouses into co-operative parents. McDonough and Bartha use their expertise in counselling families to offer a step-by-step guide to the emotional work parents must do to successfully re-negotiate the practical and emotional aspects of their relationship.By combining sophisticated clinical know-how with the latest research and illustrating with clear, easy-to-read vignettes, this book teaches parents how to manage themselves and their children to achieve a successful divorce.

Table of Contents

Frontmatter -- Contents -- Introduction -- Part I. Preventing Conflict -- 1. Three Different Kinds of Divorce -- 2. The Stresses of Divorce and the Loss of Love -- 3. Loss of Full-Time Parenting -- 4. The Separating Process -- 5. Children's Reactions to Divorce -- 6. Talking to Your Children about Your Divorce -- 7. The Parenting Plan -- 8. Getting to Your Parenting Plan -- Part II. Managing Conflict by Getting Informed -- 9. The High-Conflict Divorce -- 10. The Impact of Conflict on Children and Parental Alienation Syndrome -- 11. Traditional Custody and Access Arrangements -- Part III. Damage Control -- 12. When You Have to Go to Court and Clinical Assessments -- 13. Special Issues: Absent Parents, Spousal Assault, and Sexual Abuse Allegations -- Conclusion -- Appendix -- References